"please, just listen to me"

one evening the children were playing nicely together, then zoe decided to play a movie. so jared decided he wanted to play one too. a dissagreement broke out. i try as much as possible to let them work it out between them, but this one was harder for them. zoe pushed jared out of the way, so jared pushed zoe a little harder and she fell to the ground. unfortunately for jared, dad saw this and things didn't go too well, as jared ended up in his room very upset.

i left him for a minute and then went and sat on his bed by him. i could see the pain ripple through his body as he wriggled and squirmed, breathing as if it hurt. i reflected to him that he was feeling upset, he said "mom, it's not fair, i got sent to my room and zoe didn't" i reflected once again that he didn't think he had been treated fairly, i asked him if he wanted me to tell his dad that he was upset, he said "wait until im asleep." as we talked i watched him relax and he breathed a big sigh of relief. dad came in to say goodbye to him and he said "mom, tell dad now," so i did. dad sat and listened to me. he said to jared that zoe wasn't for pushing even though she had pushed him first and that was why he was sent to his room. they gave each other a big hug and kiss, jared then held up his pinky for a 'pinky hug' and said "i love you dad" and dad said "i l0ve you too bud" and jared drifted off to sleep.

ashley, jared says thanks!